Author: Yvette Bowlin

Me too.

Probably the hardest thing to admit when something is so humiliating. But women everywhere are revealing their unifying secret. In the wake of the New York Times story on movie mogul Harvey Weinstein’s sexual harassment, the #metoo movement has gone viral. What started it? Actor, Alyssa Milano, tweeted,

Me too.

Suggested by a friend: “If all the women who have been sexually harassed or assaulted wrote ‘Me too.’ as a status, we might give people a sense of the magnitude of the problem.”

Scrolling Facebook, you might have seen the same status come across your feed several times. Within 24 hours of Alyssa’s tweet, more than 25,000 responded.

That’s the power of empathy, honesty and vulnerability.

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Big screens, little screens, on and off screen, in front of you, behind you, in your ear, in your face, in your car, in your home, everywhere. Distractions are everywhere.

We drown in them. We’re derailed by them. We’re inspired by them. …We’re in love with them.

We seek them out. We call to them, asking to be taken away. To be our rescuer from the mundane and boring. From the difficult and challenging. From the tragic and heartbreaking.

We welcome distractions with open arms, to clutter our existence with denial, avoidance or entertainment.

It may seem harmless, but what are these distractions costing us?

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There is a way to keep your busy schedule from getting you down. There is a way to ward off the headache, exhaustion and overload of busy.

If you could stay organized—in a clean home, with a clear head—during the busy times, life won’t feel like a rickety roller coaster ride. Instead, it’ll be more like a smooth cruise along the scenic route.

But how do you organize head and home enough to turn busy into easy?

For starters, you might want to adjust a few things in your day-to-day routine. Nothing too drastic, these 7 habits will help you begin to organize your busy life.

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If you’re peeking over the fence to see what’s on the other side, you’ve fallen prey to a clutter problem.

One of the symptoms of a cluttered mind is comparisons (see all 8 here). This one is a doozy. Pretty much a plague, comparing ourselves to someone else is like a disease, putting us at odds, making us feel less than, handicapped.

Comparisons amount to superlative judgments. It is deliberately taking two things and pitting them against each other for the sake of choosing a preference, or winner. It feels like judging two options to decide which is preferred.

It is searching for bigger and better, chasing faster and stronger.

We compare:

  • shoes
  • lunches
  • careers
  • salaries
  • bodies
  • lifestyles
  • houses
  • cars
  • families
  • friends
  • instagram fame
  • facebook likes
  • etc., etc.

We compare so much, where does that leave us? Feeling pretty shitty.

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While a common complaint, this blog post title is misleading. If you’re telling yourself that you don’t have time, you’re lying. We have enough time to do anything we choose because we manage our own time.

We invented time.

Long ago, we created these yardsticks to tell us where to start and stop our day. Minutes, hours, days, months, years are all figments of our imagination. Yet, we’ve become so beholden to those finite measures that now we limit ourselves by them.

When we think we lack time, it becomes our reality. Our jail cell.

We’re always doing something with our time. We’re choosing an action in every moment. To sit still, to move; to fight, to forgive; to gain, to lose.

At the end of the day, most would say they fit in what they absolutely “needed” to.

But if we create time, and we choose what we do to fill that time, don’t we have all the power? We don’t have to let time rule over us, right?

Right. If you think otherwise, you’re looking at time all wrong.

It’s not a matter of ticking seconds that dictate whether you have enough space to complete all that you wish to complete. It’s a matter of what you’re choosing to fill the space.

You always do everything you want to do, despite feeling like some things are not getting done.

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By now you’ve heard of meditation’s many health benefits, and you’ve probably even tried a few minutes of quiet sitting to see what all the hype is about.

You may have gone so far as to put in hours researching meditation, especially after you landed on 28,000,000 different Google results in your hunt for information.

Eventually you uncovered the ultimate purpose of meditation: to declutter the mind.

Meditation, whatever the label, is designed to “bring attention to,” or “become aware of.” We become aware of thought, the inner workings of our minds. We grow in insight about what we think and our reactions to the thinking.

The very technique of meditation invites in a spaciousness around those thoughts because we’re able to monitor, observe, and slow the reactions. The more distance between thought and reaction, the more we come to experience the profound benefits of patience, love and compassion.

The techniques vary, but not the results. No one version is better than the other.

Still, you’re on this blog, curious about what type of meditation is perfect for you.

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What does it mean to win? Is it the opposite of to fail? The answer’s subjective, as all answers are. And actually, the answer lies in the person doing the asking.

What we make of our lives depends on us, and us alone. No one else can change that or give us a life we’ve not chosen for ourselves.

If you don’t feel like a winner, it’s because you’ve chosen not to be a winner. You’ve chosen instead to be and do the opposite.

If you’ve been feeling like everything but a winner lately, I have a few tips to help you win at life. These tips have been passed down from generation to generation. Tips that encompass a simple truth that even our ancestors strived to live by.

Now you, too, will have the keys to success if you keep reading.

Below are 4 tips to help you consciously earn that “winner” title. If you put these to work immediately, nothing can stand in your way to success.

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