The sunk feeling, the confusion, the loneliness, the despair, the panic. Losing your way sparks a whole lotta emotions. And without a clear path out of that dark place, you can spiral out right into depression. Most people do.
At some point, they lost connection to who they are. They lost clarity on what they want and where they’re going. They started following everything else but their inner compass and eventually looked around and didn’t recognize the place.
When we feel lost, our instinct is to go on the hunt. Find what’s missing. Find what’s lost.
But instead of chasing answers from every Tom, Dick & Harry, find answers within. We weren’t taught this stuff as kids. We were told to listen to our parents and teachers and bosses for direction.
Now you can decide what’s ahead. You can find yourself when you know how.
Here are 4 tips to find yourself, starting from within:
1. Find Your Clarity
- Step 1: Slow – slow down, pause the hustle and be intentional with your steps
- Step 2: Still – get still so you’re in position to listen to what’s going on within
- Step 3: Silence – get quiet so you can hear the insight
2. Find Your Feelings
Notice what’s going on inside. Have the “why” and “what for” conversations and notice your breathing, the body’s sensations, body temperature, the little pains in your joints, the twitches in your muscles. What’s it telling you?
If something comes to mind that lights you up, what is it? What about you just excited you?
3. Find Your Fun
Where’s the joy? Where’s the fun in your life? When we stop having fun, we fall into fear. How far we are from fun is in direction proportion to our distance from clarity.
When was the last time you had fun? If it’s been awhile, no wonder you feel lost and unclear. You lost your sense of enjoyment and where there’s joy, there’s empowerment and confidence.
4. Find Your Way
Take a day off the grid. Spend time with you, not in misery, but doing something you love doing—like playing, dancing, singing, painting, a picnic in the park.
Before you unplug, grab your roadmap. It helps to have a flashlight for the journey because it’s easy to veer off track and think you’re going the wrong way or doing “it” wrong.
Make the time to connect with yourself again—who you are, your purpose, your why—so you can align your next steps accordingly.
Don’t stay stuck in feeling lost and confused. Grab your roadmap and find your way.